3 STUDENT ASSESSMENTS FOR PARENTS TO MAKE IN 2019
- Is your child focused more on the assignments they are completing or the person they are becoming?
Assignments and tests are important.Presentations and papers are useful and necessary in helping us evaluate whether or not a student has mastered course material.However, it is absolutely critical for students to understand that their success in life (spiritually, relationally, vocationally, and physically) will have less to do with the grades they achieve and more to do with the person that they are becoming.It’s perfectly natural for high achieving students to focus on grades, but we need them to attack their self-actualization with the same fervor they attack the classes in which they excel the most.A well-rounded student is certain to focus on their academics, but as that student matures we also expect their mindset to become more engaged with purposefully cultivating relationships that challenge them, intentionally curating experiences that cannot be duplicated elsewhere, and thoughtfully discerning the core values that will help them make influential decisions.
- Is your child becoming more or less vulnerable in conversations with you?
Life is hard for everyone, especially college students.It is imperative that as students grow, they do so with the benefit of caring adults that can serve as mentors and guides through challenging times. We believe that God has specifically given us a family to help us through the most difficult times we will face.Deep, meaningful relationships are based upon honest and vulnerable conversations.We believe that one of the reasons that God gifted you with your child is so that you can help them navigate life’s challenges.In order for you to be the voice that your child needs in tough times, you will need your child to increase their level of vulnerability and transparency with you.(And that might start with your increasing your vulnerability with them.) We want you to practice asking the hard questions now, before there is a crisis, so that your child knows that your relationship is strong enough to handle anything that may come.Ask your child about their faith, the struggles that are affecting their friends, the things that scare them, and what kinds of anxieties they have felt this semester.As your child grows in life experience, we want them to share that experience – both the good and the bad – with their parents.
- Is your child becoming more selective about who they trust?
Most students begin college with a strong desire to form meaningful relationships and a weak place from which to do so. Advisors get assigned. Roommates and hall-mates and classmates are assigned, too. Sometimes it is easy for underclassmen students to feel like they do not have a lot of control in selecting the people and groups with whom they spend their time. As a student progresses through college, we expect them to be in a position where they can exert more control over the people they engage with, and we expect for them to be selective about creating strong relationships with people that share their core values. A hallmark of maturity is not placing your trust in someone merely because you are around them often, but being able to develop a wide variety of acquaintanceships, friendships, and close friendships. We want your student to be able to place their trust and confidence in people that care for them, share common goals, and reciprocate the kind of friendship and moral foundation that reflects your child’s values.